The Gray Line

This weekend I was at a job training/ leadership retreat up in the cottage country. I was only 1 of over 18 schools with students in this program. Since it was in the wilderness, and since it was a camp, they grouped the males and the females and put them into cabins for the night. The people in the cabin I was with were, essentially, alright people. They would make it in society...they'd be the norm. But they weren't Christian.

The two nights I spent there, the late night conversation was extremely sexually explicit and graphic. For 16-18 year olds, the things they said and did disgusted me. But I kept my mouth shut, and pretended I didn't hear them.

But one time, I couldn't.

They had actually begun to rate girls in within the job training facility that they were working at. What happened to respect for women? What happened to respect for themselves?

Of course, as a Christian, you would think that the reason I don't believe in that kind of behavior is because Jesus said no. While that may be the main reason, there are a couple more practical reasons for why I disagree with this:

 1. Unless you plan to be with the girl you are having sex with the rest of your life, step away. Because if you leave her, realize that you just had sex with somebody else's wife.

I can't stress this enough. Isn't love supposed to be something special? Don't you think your future wife will deserve having all of you? Or, do you think she won't mind having some of you with her and the rest with another girl you don't even remember?

2. What are you trying to prove and who are you proving it to? Once you realize that you don't have to prove anyone right or wrong, and that you are in control of your purity, it gets much easier to respect yourself and the opposite sex.

A lot of guys think that life revolves around being the guy who can get the lady. Not because he loves her, but for the thrill. The adrenaline rush. The feeling of being the "alpha male". Let me tell you something.
The best way to win these kind of arguments, and to save you from hours pacing your bedroom floor, or in a worst case scenario, at an abortion clinic with that girl you saw and wanted to "test drive"....is to not participate in them. You are still a man if you decide to save yourself for someone you love; in fact, you are more of one than anyone else you talk to.

3. Look at the big picture and think before you act. 

I know, we're guys. we think with our....well, we don't think at all, actually, and I'm pretty sure if we thought out our actions and looked at them logically we would save ourselves a whole lot of trouble and heartache. But like I said, look at the big picture. Where do you see yourself 10, 20, 30 years from now? And what do you think the people around you will think of you and why?

You don't have to be Christian to follow these rules. I'm just asking for a little respect towards yourself and the opposite sex. You are worth so much more than what you call yourself as and what you want to be.

God Bless.
-4:29